Joint Attention Examples

Simply, joint attention is a shared experience between you and your child – when you both realize it is a shared experience – even if it is just for a fleeting moment. We need joint attention before we can communicate effectively.

The Official Definition:

Joint attention is the ability to “maintain a common focus with another person on an event in the immediate environment, or on a topic through language. Joint attention communication occurs when signals are used to direct another’s attention to an object or event for the purpose of sharing observations or experiences (e.g. commenting on an object or event, requesting information). “(From The SCERTS Model, Vol. 1, by Prizant, Wetherby, Rubin, Laurent, and Rydell, p.313).

Joint Attention Activities:

Note: in this example, the adult has chosen to use the book because the boy likes this book.

Emotional-Regulation

Why Practicing Can Help with Emotional Regulation, by Oregon Behaviour Consultation

  • Being mad “makes us dumb”.
  • Make a plan.
  • Practise to make the best choice ahead of time.
  • Use visual prompts (talk less) to support the person having a hard time.
  • Adjust the plan as needed and practice again.

5 Unhelpful Responses

  • Don’t talk.
  • Don’t try to reason, explain, or lecture.
  • Don’t shout or use a loud or intense voice
  • Don’t respond to oppositional or defiant behaviour.
  • Don’t bring up consequences.

Instead…

  • Use visual prompts.
  • Take a break.
  • Allow thinking time (for both of you) – wait.
  • Use a calm and gentle tone of voice.
  • Allow more thinking time.
  • Have a plan that you have practiced.
  • Be quiet but let them know that this is part of the plan, you are not ignoring them.

Definitions of Self-Regulation

What is self-regulation anyway?  Are we all talking about the same thing?  Some of the experts have different definitions! What speaks to you?

If you find other definitions in your travels, or you have a favourite definition, please share it in comment below.

Stuart Shanker defines it as:

Self-Regulation refers to how people manage energy expenditure, recovery and restoration in order to enhance growth. Effective self-regulation requires learning to recognize and respond to stress in all its many facets, positive as well as negative, hidden as well as overt, minor as well as traumatic or toxic. (https://self-reg.ca/self-reg/)

Leah Kuypers says:

Self-regulation is something everyone continually works on whether or not we are cognizant of it.  We all encounter trying circumstances that test our limits from time to time.  If we are able to recognize when we are becoming less regulated, we are able to do something about it to manage our feelings and get ourselves to a healthy place.  This comes naturally for some, but for others it is a skill that needs to be taught and practiced. (http://www.zonesofregulation.com/learn-more-about-the-zones.html)